Thursday, November 28, 2013

Spotlight on Influence

1. Is it better to be LOVED or Feared ?

The growing body of research suggests that the way to Influence -and to LEAD - is to begin with Warmth.
Warmth is the conduit of Influence: It facilitates trust and the Communication and absorption of ideas.

Even a small nonverbal signals-a nod, a smile, an open gesture-can show people that you are pleased to be in their company and attentive to their concerns. Prioritizing warmth helps you connect immediately with those around you, demonstrating that you hear them, understand them, and can be trusted by them.

"Before People decide what they think of your message, They decide what they think of you."

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Monday, August 12, 2013

I have become a Proud Father



I have become a father: 
Blessed with precious gift - Prince...
Close to 3.56PM on 10th Aug 2013 , I have become a proud father, blessed with a boy.

I have begun my New journey after day. At the office & to Friends, whoever heard the news congratulated me and I felt great.

It was 9th Aug, 2013, Friday. I use to avoid Travel to Bhavnagar on friday, My "Sasural". I do not know why I travelled o that day. I booked ticket on 3PM for 6PM journey. I caught bus at 5.45. I reached sasural at 10.45PM quite a late. I had a dinner at 11.30PM. I talked with my wife-Disha & to be baby for a while. I said to my baby that i waited a much for you, please be in my hand soon. I wondered whether she heard or what but it happened at 3.30AM, when my wife started complaints about fluid flow. I ignored & said get sleep & dont think about it. she didnt sleep & cried by saying some thing is happening strange in my stomach. I ignored again. I got good sleep. At 6, Mitra, my sister in law, came to me and said we are going to maternity home. I shocked with saying what time is it. she said 6, we called Doctor, doctor said come in urgent. I get up, wore a shirt, started running down to disha. She said " what discussion you had with our baby, she took seriously".

We went to clinic, got her admitted. Doctor said technically matter with my Sasu. I stayed with my wife till she finally taken for delivery.

Normal Delivery was a big scare for me, Due to a early knowing of bi-cornet uterus in 4D sonography. I kept having terrible tension with my thinking during the delivery. At 3.56, Doctor came out, congratulated us by saying you have a Baby Boy. Both are fine. Disha had to do some post delivery treatment. Thats it. 

Newborn was in the doctor's hand due to premature birth. At four in the evening, when all were allowed to see, I saw them from outside window for the first time. I could hardly discern anything but his little face. I choose to wait patiently. Aware that he is going to grow up to become fine.

However when you have baby in your Hand, all discomfort disappear. You are at the height of happiness.  

Tanmay Vora

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

"Mindset": The New Psychology of Success

Two Mindsets: Fixed or Growth

One day I was trying to understand why some students/Employees were so caught up in proving their ability, while others could just let go and learn. Gradually I realized that there were two meanings to ability, not one: a fixed ability that needs to be proven, and a changeable ability that can be developed through learning. 

Believing that your qualities are carved in stone—the fixed mindset—creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over. If you have only a certain amount of intelligence, a certain personality, and a certain moral character—well, then you’d better prove that you have a healthy dose of them. 

I’ve seen so many people with this one consuming goal of proving themselves—in the classroom, in their careers, and in their relationships. Every situation calls for a confirmation of their intelligence, personality, or character. Every situation is evaluated: Will I succeed or fail? Will I look smart or dumb? Will I be accepted or rejected? Will I feel like a winner or a loser?

There is another mindset [a growth mindset] in which these traits are not simply a hand you’re dealt and have to live with, always trying to convince yourself and others that you have a royal flush when you’re secretly worried it’s a pair of tens. In this mindset, the hand you’re dealt is just the starting point for development. This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts. Although people may differ in every which can change and grow through application and experience. 

When you enter a mindset, you enter a new world. In one world—the world of fixed traits—success is about proving you’re smart or talented. Validating yourself. In the other—the world of changing qualities—it’s about stretching yourself to learn something new. Developing yourself.

In one world, failure is about having a setback. Getting a bad grade. Losing a tournament. Getting fired. Getting rejected. It means you’re not smart or talented. In the other world, failure is about not growing. Not reaching for the things you value. It means you’re not fulfilling your potential.

I would like to share my own experiences with you for the first time in my Life. As an Engineer I started my career as a simple Engineer who works in Plant/labors/Supervisors doing what is being done since a three decade. Every body was trying to fit himself in that stereotype & nobody had ever tried to innovate/Create something new. That is called Fixed Mindset. By sinking in that routine people had never stretched that brain to learn something new for personal /relationship development.

From 2005 to 2006, I was working as an In house Quality control Engineer., 2006 to 2008, Inspector at Vendor stage, 2009 to 2011, Validation Engineer( Design validation). Every time I learnt something & forgot. In 2011. In 2008, I joined NIRMA for pursuing MBA Part Time Degree to add value to my career. I was not excel in education in school time, but achieved fare excellency in Maths & Logic.  I believe if you have ability to visualize things logically you can do things more simpler than others. In 2011, I expressed my thoughts to my Management about my contribution. I was delegated commercial activities which has nothing to do with engineering. today I am involved in financial measurement for which I am learning accountancy & financial management.

Growth is not what you earn but growth is difference between what you were & now.

"Self-taking", "Self-churning" & 'Self-storming" is the way to change mindset.

(To be continue) 

Tanmay Vora

Alternative Thinking !!! Why cannot We break the barriers?

Life is a WAR, let's fight !

Let me remind myself a few Counter strike Announcements :  "Go go go"...."Counter Terrorists Win!"




The Elephant Rope
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As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?

Failure is part of learning; we should never give up the struggle in life.


Hope this helps you a lot.

Thanks,
Tanmay Warrior Vora